Bullying can exist in every school. At this school, we work together to create an atmosphere of mutual respect and understanding.
If an incident should arise there are procedures in place to enable parents, teachers and pupils to work together to find a solution. Where appropriate this may involve the Governing Body.
The Values important to our School:-
*We establish and promote an environment where everyone is valued and helped to be a happy, confident, life-long learner with a strong sense of self-worth.
*Pupils acquire knowledge, skills and attitudes which help them on their way to becoming responsible adults.
*We strongly believe every child and adult deserves to be safe at school.
*We establish and promote a close working partnership between parents / carers, pupils, governors and staff with clear communication between all.
*Our 6 Core Values of Respect, Trust, Hope, Thankfulness, Compassion and Unity underpin all our interactions and work with children, parents / carers, staff, governors and any other adult or child who visits our School.
Bullying undermines these fundamental values and will not be tolerated in any form.
Aims of the Policy
- To help everyone celebrate and value our similarities and differences, and to acknowledge and respect each other
- To encourage everyone to view him/herself as an important part of the school community where participation is valued and views are respected
- To promote in everyone a positive attitude towards each other and to have strong self-esteem
- To help individuals to understand, accept and learn from / move forward from the consequences of their own actions
- To confirm that any incidents of bullying or harassment are dealt with fairly / and recorded following the school’s procedure
- To ensure that everyone (school adult, visitor, parent / carer or child) feels secure in reporting any incident of bullying
Definition of Bullying
It is really important that all adults and children mean the same thing when talking about bullying.
In the absence of a legal definition of bullying in the UK, St Mary Redcliffe Primary bases its definition on the following:
Bullying is generally defined as an intentional act that causes harm to others, and may involve verbal harassment, verbal or non-verbal threats, physical assault, stalking, or other methods of coercion such as manipulation, blackmail, or extortion.
It is aggressive behaviour that intends to hurt, threaten or frighten another person. An imbalance of power between the aggressor and the victim is often involved.
Bullying may occurs in a variety of contexts, such as schools, workplaces, political or military settings, and others.
At St Mary Redcliffe Primary, Bullying is understood and defined to as follows:
- It is hurtful behaviour, which can be, but may not always be, deliberate or intentional. The person or people usually want to hurt, humiliate or harm the target.
- It is usually goes on for a while or happens regularly over a period of time.
- It involves someone (or several people) who is perceived to be stronger in some way than the person being bullied. The person bullying is perceived to have more power or has a ‘hold’ over the target.
- It is difficult for those being bullied to defend themselves and they perceive themselves to be powerless to change the situation.
- Bullying takes place in different forms including in person or as cyber-bullying
(eg text messages, mobile phone calls, Facebook comments – although no primary age child should have a Facebook account – minimum age is 13.
"No information from children under age 13. If you are under age 13, please do not attempt to register for Facebook or provide any personal information about yourself to us. If we learn that we have collected personal information from a child under age 13, we will delete that information as quickly as possible.")
Bullying IS NOT A one-off fight or argument
A friend sometimes being unkind or nasty
An argument or falling out with a friend
(even though these may occur more than once)
Bullying can take many forms but the 3 main types are:-
- PHYSICAL – hitting, kicking, pushing, taking belongings
- VERBAL – name-calling, insulting, racist remarks*, sexist remarks, remarks to or about someone because of a disability, physical appearance or particular ability, homophobic comments, , spreading stories or rumours about someone, excluding someone from social groups, remarks about your Faith or Culture, cyber bullying
(*racist remarks must always be reported to the Headteacher using the designated reporting sheet – incidents of racism are required to be reported to the Local Authority)
- EMOTIONAL / MENTAL – any of the above and which cause the target to feel ashamed, frightened or upset
One-off serious incidents – eg resulting in injury may or may not be incidents of bullying and are initially investigated using the Behaviour Reporting Sheet to the Head Teacher and may lead to other disclosures which will then be investigated using the School’s procedures.
Supportive Work in School
- A regular circle time activity takes place in each class. Staff encourage and support age-appropriate conversations about friendship or behaviour concerns.
- Teaching through PSHE Curriculum, Core Values, Core Learning Skills.
- Annual Anti-Bullying Week (usually November) with a wide range of activities, books and starting points and a Buddy Bunting created per class, displayed for the whole academic year, then ceremonially taken down and each flag returned to its creator as an end of year gift.
- Anti-Bullying Workshop or Play annually (School Budget allowing).
- Annual Cyber-Bullying Week (usually February) to support safe internet / media use.
- In response to particular situations arising, pupils will have opportunities to discuss issues related to bullying and may include the following:
- What is bullying?
- Who is a bully?
- How does the person being bullied feel?
- How does the bully feel?
- Who can the person being bullied tell?
- How can we support the person being bullied?
- How can we support the person bullying?
- Weekly Operations Meeting has the opportunity for Staff to raise concerns or questions about individual children in class and then share the information with other relevant Staff eg SMSAs.
Roles and Responsibilities
- Monitor and evaluate policy
- Investigate any long term grievance or concern for a family which feels that a bullying issue has not been resolved by School Staff, in accordance with the School’s Complaints and Grievance Policy and Procedures.
Head Teacher will:
- Listen to person reporting bullying and actively participate in procedures as appropriate
- Keep Bullying Record and report to appropriate bodies.
- Know the Anti-Bullying Policy
- Seek advice from Senior Leaders and / or Head Teacher
- Listen carefully to children who feel they are targets of bullying
- Listen carefully to children who are perceived to be bullying
- Record incidents and follow procedures correctly – see page 7 of this policy
- Participate in Anti-Bullying Week to know what bullying is and different forms of bullying (age appropriate)
- Participate in Cyber-bullying Awareness Week
- Know what to do if they or someone they know is being bullied
- Know how they can help prevent bullying
School Teams will:
- Help to think of ways to keep our school and all its members physically and emotionally safe and implement them, with support from Staff.
Parents / Carers will:
- Listen to their child if his / her behaviour changes or s/he regularly reports concerns about another child
- Stay calm and write down what s/he says then allow the him / her to verify or clarify information
- Arrange to meet with the Teacher as soon as possible
- Not approach the child who is reported as bullying, or the child’s parent / carer
Monitoring and Evaluating
- Bullying Record kept and monitored annually by Head and PSHE Leader
- Report to Governors at least once annually, including details of any issues arising from monitoring or actions taken in bullying incidents
- Anti Bullying Policy reviewed annually
- Stock of SEAL support booklets bought annually (SEAL – Social and Emotional Aspects of Learning)
Teaching and Learning
Internet Safety Guidelines - displayed in every class
Equality and Inclusion
Review Date: November 2015
Procedures and What do we do Next?
….. For someone being bullied
Tell someone you trust. This could be:
- a friend
- a member of the School Improvement Team
- a Teacher or other member of School Staff eg SMSA
- an older child who you know and trust
- an adult who you know and trust
This person will listen and decide the best way to help.
You are not to blame and we believe what you are saying.
The way forward will include any or all of the following:
- Listening to you and talking the situation through with you
- Your class teacher logging the incident onto a Bullying Incident Form which is seen by the Head Teacher and may be investigated further
- Planning ways to improve the situation by taking responsibility for yourself and practising self-support techniques such as ‘fogging’
- Telling your parent(s) or carers
- Telling other staff as appropriate (eg LSA, SMSA, Learning Mentor)
- Your class teacher or the Head Teacher talking to the bully or bullies and telling their parents / carers
- Monitoring the situation over an agreed period of time
- Giving you a Booklet to help support you and your family
- Follow-up meetings arranged with your parents/ carers if appropriate
….. For someone who is reported to be bullying:
- Your Teacher and Head Teacher will listen to you and talk the situation through to see it from both your and the other person’s points of view
- Adults will decide if bullying has taken place
- Adults will log incidents onto a Bullying Incident Form / other Behaviour Reporting Form
- Adults will talk with you about how you are feeling while interacting with the other person and what can be changed in your thinking, behaviour and speech
- Adults will tell your parents or carers who may need to meet with the Head Teacher
- You and your Teacher may meet with the Learning Mentor (if appropriate) to plan ways forward
- You will be given a Booklet to help support you and your family
- Follow-up meetings will be arranged with your parents / carers if appropriate
Appendix 1 - Useful Information / Phrases / Vocabulary for Children and Adults
If you are aware of bullying ……
- Don’t ignore bullying, you CAN help
- Try to be a friend or be kind to the target of the bullying
- If there are ‘less safe spaces’ you have to be in, choose to be in them in small groups of 2s or 3s
- Try to be a friend or be kind to the person or people doing the bullying
- Refuse to join in with the bullying
- Tell an adult
If you are being bullied …..
- You are not to blame, and you are not responsible
- Try to stay calm and look confident
- Walk away if possible
- Be firm and tell the person or people to stop
- If appropriate, use a normal, bored-sounding voice and say something neutral (yeah so what, whatever, maybe …)
- Your body language, tone of voice and words all need to give the message “I’m not really bothered by anything you say or do”.
- Try ‘fogging’ – mentally surround yourself with a fog or force-field to absorb the unhelpful words
- Get away from the situation as quickly as possible and tell an adult straight away
- Take a friend with you if you feel anxious about telling an adult
- If the bullying is by text, phone or email, keep the messages and tell a trusted adult straight away
Think very carefully about who you give your mobile or home phone number to.
Appendix 2 - Helpful Thoughts
It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
J. K. Rowling (Harry Potter and The Chamber of Secrets)
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of
somebody else. Judy Garland (who played Dorothy in the film “The Wizard of Oz)
To thine own self be true. William Shakespeare
Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.
William James 1842 - 1910 (American philosopher and psychologist and first
educator to offer a psychology course in the United States)
Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an
obligation to be one. Eleanor Roosevelt 1884 - 1962
(wife of Franklin D Roosevelt, American President 1933-1945)
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt
Always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from
your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don't invest
any energy in them, because I know who I am.
Michelle Obama (wife of Barack Obama, current American President)
Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.
Oprah Winfrey (American media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer, and
Value your own opinion more, and others' opinions less. Jonathan Lockwood Huie
(American Author of Self-Awareness Books and collector of Quotes)
Ask yourself: Is it kind? Is it helpful? Is it true?
Do to others what you wish them to do to you. (The Bible – Luke 6:31)
Appendix 3 - Useful websites and telephone numbers
Childline 0800 1111
Confidential and free for children in trouble or danger
Kidscape 0207 730 3300
Bullying Counsellor available Monday – Wednesday 9.30 – 4.30
NSPCC 0808 800 5000
Samaritans 0117 983 1000 (Bristol Branch)
Race and Equality Officer 0117 353 3308
Advisory Centre for Education 0808 800 5793
Homophobic Harrassment 0117 377 3677
National Family and 020 7424 3460
Support against Racist 0117 942 0060
Victim Support Scheme 0845 30 30 900
Bristol City Council 0117 353 3308
For all enquiries relating to harassment of adults and to get forms from Equalities and Social Inclusion Team
Appendix 4 - Policies and Paperwork
Behaviour Level 3 Incident sheet
Level 1,2 3 Behaviours Defined
Bullying Monitoring Sheet (for Individual)
SMR Bullying Record (pro forma)
Teaching and Learning Policy – links on School website
Behaviour Policy - links on School website
PSHE Policy – links on School website
This policy will be uploaded onto the School website
Children’s Procedure / Vocabulary will be linked into the children’s section on the website
Telephone numbers and websites will be linked into the children and parents’ sections on the website